Living gratefully requires practice.
It takes sustained effort to reclaim my whole past
as the concrete way God has led me to this moment.
For in doing so I must face not only today's hurts,
but the past's experiences of rejection or abandonment or failure or fear...
...grateful people learn to celebrate
even amid life's hard and harrowing memories
because they know that pruning is no mere punishment, but preparation.
When our gratitude for the past is only partial,
our hope for the future can likewise never be full.
Henri Nouwen, Turn My Mourning into Dancing
What if he's right?